I am posting this on both blogs because I think this is one of the most profound videos I have seen. Frank Kern gave this address back in 2008(?) at an Internet Marketing seminar. It’s roughly 2 hours long (that’s my disclosure, there) but the first hour and a half is spent on you and how you can learn who you truly want to be (what you truly want out of life). Well, at least that’s how I saw it.
So, you want to lose weight? Why? Do you think you’ll be happy once you lose the weight? That’s what a lot of people think: I’ll be happy if or when. Those are the people who, once they reach their goal and find out they are still the same person, just in a skinny body, end up putting on not only the weight they had originally lost but more! Those are the people who win the lottery (literally) yet wind up penniless and miserable, with no friends or family.
Before we begin any journey in life, we need to really take a look at who we really are and what we truly want out of life. The exercise that Frank walks them (us) through is: What would be your perfect average day? Not a day when you are doing something special (like taking a trip) but your perfect normal average day. What time would you wake up? Who would you be with? What would you have for breakfast? That sort of thing.
Think about it. If your dream is to never have to work again, what would you do to occupy your time? If your dream is to lose 100 pounds, what would you do next? How would that change your life? Let’s say you want to run marathons. O.k. So, how would you spend your day if you were snowed in?
Once you do this exercise per Frank’s description, take a good honest look at it. You need to take action now to become happy with your life. After watching this video, I realized that I’ve been doing this for a number of years without consciously realizing it. I have let friends go (some of my oldest friends) because they were not conducive with my happiness. I’ve done the same thing with family members. My attitude about life and circumstances has changed dramatically, all for the better. I used to be angry and ready for a fight. I was very active in the political arena with my primary focus on the injustices of this or that. While that is alright, I never truly focused on how I could turn that around to make my (or anyone else’s) life better. I was extremely negative, spending the majority of my time just bitching, ranting, and buying more ammunition (it’s like food or money or air … or happiness. You can never have enough). 🙂
Now, I’m doing my best to improve my life and sharing it with you along the way, in the hope that it may help you, too. I haven’t sat down and officially done the exercise mentioned above yet (I will in a little bit) but I have been thinking about it a lot. My perfect, average day would pretty much be my life now (just in a location where I can smell pine trees when I open the front door and not hear sirens and police helicopters for hours at a time, like this morning … 4 hours!). I would have the strength to split wood or hand-turn soil all day long if need be. I wouldn’t have neighbors that I can hear cough (it’s not that bad but you know what I mean) and I can raise any animal I damn well please!
So, what about you?