Current Events, Goals, Journal

To Learn, You Must Do

It’s rare when I am surprised by anything I read online. The last time I was truly shocked about anything in the public domain was when Trump won the Presidential election. Watching the election night coverage (yes, we watched all night) was true “shock and awe.” That was the best reality show we have ever watched and the reactions were priceless (and gloriously genuine). Virtually no one expected that outcome, especially me. I didn’t vote for Clinton or Trump. I can’t stand any of the Clintons but figured Hillary was going to win no matter who she was running against. See? “Shock and Awe.”

Most of the online election aftermath has caused my eyes to roll way too much. Both sides, with their diehard supporters who never really paid attention to what their candidates actually believed, just irritate me. As much as I love the MAGAs’ dread when they realize Trump isn’t the ultraconservative they assumed he was, I really loathe those Hillary supporters who assumed, because I did not support her (and definitely did not support Obama), that I was a Trump supporter. I knew some of these people for over 20 years, yet they lashed out at me like I had suggested someone needed to start drowning puppies. They chose to ignore the fact that I had never supported any of the chosen Republican candidates that ran against Obama in both elections. All logic and reason left their overly emotional brains and (from what I have seen) has never returned.

This has never been more evident than what has actually surprised me online: they are scared and talking about arming themselves and either advocating for (or anticipating) a civil war. I have even read some hoping for a military coup. It feels like a really bad episode of the Twilight Zone since this is the same talk I saw from ultra-conservatives when Obama was elected to office except then, the “fight” was to preserve the Constitution and now the “fight” is to dismantle it (despite the calls to arm themselves). They just aren’t thinking this through. Why would they want to give up control of their lives (and their right to protect their lives) to the very people they are protesting against?

This is new territory for me. I knew what to ignore when Obama was first elected as mostly grandstanding (or in my off-line words, idiots being keyboard commandos) but I don’t know this new crop of people. I am not sure how serious they are or are they just typing all of that to make others think they are serious.What I do know is there are too many people within society who do not understand that just because they think (or say) something doesn’t mean they will always win. These people also do not understand that with every loss, there is a lesson that can be learned if they are willing to remove emotion from the equation.

I do know that, outside of the anti-Trump groups, I have noticed an uptick in worry and a desire to begin preparing for … something. I am not sure exactly what the impetus to prepare is. I do not think it really matters. Whether people are preparing for some sort of civil war, civil unrest, disruption in the food chain, nuclear war, natural disasters, or any other imagined scenario, the path toward independence and security is the same:

To Learn Must Do

You can have all the books in the world but if you have never grown a tomato plant, you will never be able to grow all the fruits and vegetables you need to sustain your family. This also applies to splitting your own firewood or baking bread (you know, actually cooking) or sewing a shirt or repairing your appliances or any number of skills you think you will need to survive any of the disastrous scenarios people can imagine.

This also goes for life in general (which was the original intention of this post). If all you do is read books without putting into practice what you read, you have learned nothing. Online marketing, SEO optimization, building your email list, writing (and publishing) a book, improving your health, losing weight, increasing your strength … none of the knowledge you acquire from any book, course, or video will do you any good if you don’t physically DO anything!

So, where do you begin? Go through everything you have learned over the course of the last year and figure out what one activity you can do today, right now. Choose just one. Then tomorrow, choose another. Slowly build up until you are practicing what you were taught (and learning what will work and what won’t). Not everything you have been taught will lead you to your ultimate goal (or end up working the way you intended). So, you set aside those things that are not working for you and move onto another activity.

The most important thing to know is you cannot control everything. You will not get everything you think you want (or things will not go the way you have planned). This is called life. You either embrace that fact or you will end up just spinning around in circles, blaming others for life not going the way you intended.

Even if you believe that the climate changing is caused by humans, what can you really do about that? Can you, personally, eliminate all excess carbon emissions from the planet, allowing your tomatoes to grow better this year? No, and even if you could, what would happen if the climate didn’t change back? What if all the scientists who support human caused climate change are proven wrong? What would you do with your life then?

We all need to focus on what we can personally change: our sphere of influence. Plant a tree, get your yard equipment serviced so it burns fuel more efficiently, stop using so many weed killers or bug sprays, pick up the garbage on your street (then the next street, then your entire neighborhood), dig up your lawn and plant food, vote for a city councilperson who embraces your way of thinking, etc. These are the types of acts that will ultimately change the world, not blocking traffic or hiding in your house waiting for the end of the world.

Goals, Journal

I Am The Teacher And The Student!

So, through all of this self-discovery: looking deep within myself to discover who I truly am and what I truly enjoy, it basically comes down to two titles: I am a student AND a teacher.

As I’ve said before: I love to learn.  I am constantly on the lookout for some new idea to explore or some project to learn or some skill to master.  Along the way, though, I love to teach what I am learning/have learned with everyone who is willing to read what I type here.

I just read an article yesterday “A Writer’s Dirty Little Secret” by Dan Wells that just clicked with me.  I do not want to teach, type up blog posts, fix my website, or share links for the betterment of my readers.  I do it for me.  I find it exciting to not just learn these new skills but to share HOW I learned those skills.  I love the challenge of discovering the proper wording to enable people to understand what I am sharing (without relying on my favorite go-to words like thingamajig, doohickey, or thingamabob).

When I was in high school, I took a creative writing class.  One of the assignments was to write out instructions, teaching someone how to brush their teeth, while assuming the person had never seen a toothbrush or toothpaste.  It was illuminating, discovering the need to dissect terminology which so many of us take for granted when they have been performing a skill/trade/job for years. I know you have run into it before:  How to manuals or websites that have you looking up the definition of words just so you can understand what is required of you just to complete the first step (I have even run into that in many of the “For Dummies” set of books, which did a lot for my self esteem at the time).  I have always done my best learning with simple instructions, whether those are from someone I am learning from or I am giving them (especially at the start of a new learning adventure).  I learned that quickly when I was an adult, helping jewelers (over the phone) fix a computer problem.  🙂

As I work through this realization, my goals are to become not only a better student (to properly learn and grow) but to become a better teacher. I am not sure how that will look (how I will evolve) but I am so happy to have you join me on this adventure!

Personal Branding Step by Step

Personal Branding – Who Am I? – Values

These are steps one and two of defining who you are from The Complete Guide to Building Your Personal Brand.

This one has been particularly difficult.  The goal is to define your values, then prioritize them.  That tiny list of values on their page did nothing for me.  I really had no idea what was required of me.  So, a-Googling I went.

Creating And Living by Your Own List of Values

And

What Are Your Values? (This one has a list of 100 values to choose from)

So, what are my values?  They are things I never equated to values.  The first thing that popped into my head when I read the word “Values” was the Bible but did any one example show itself?  Nope.  I obviously have never thought of values.  Here is the initial list I wrote down.  It’s pretty much alphabetical.

Initial List of Values:

  • Achievement
  • Competence
  • Challenging Problems
  • Decisiveness (which is a difficult one for me, since I tend to weigh the pros and cons of so many of the decisions I make that by the time I make a decision, it’s either too late or I’ve lost interest)
  • Efficiency
  • Growth
  • My Husband
  • Honesty
  • Influencing Others
  • Responsibility and Accountability
  • Knowledge
  • Personal Development
  • Quality of What I Take Part In
  • Stability

So, now I have to whittle this list down.  Not just that, I also have to put whatever list I end up with in order of importance!  Now is when you get to see how my brain works.  See, I think Competence and Efficiency should go hand in hand (so I can just move those to a single entry 🙂 ).  Also, Honesty should go hand in hand with Responsibility and Accountability because if you are blaming others for something you are at fault for, isn’t that lying (not only to others but yourself)?  I do not like the term “Influencing Others”.  In my brain, that sounds pushy, like I’m trying to be Obi Wan Kenobi (I love this image, from the presentation: Neuromarketing: The Brain Science of Web Marketing)

Doesn’t “Educating Others” sound better?  So, that would go with Knowledge, right?  😀  See what I mean about how my brain works?  There never is a single ‘correct’ answer.  I will delete (yes, remove) Stability.  While I love Stability (especially financial … knowing I will be able to continue to pay bills is wonderful), embarking on this life-altering mission of discovery has (or will) upset the apple cart.  Now, to prioritize.

Here’s my new list, in order of importance:

  1. My Husband (who is wonderfully accepting of all my tangents/projects/changes I’ve already made in my life)
  2. Competence, Efficiency and Quality
  3. Knowledge and Educating Others
  4. Responsibility, Accountability and Honesty
  5. Growth

So, that’s it!  My brain’s exhausted.  I haven’t used it this much since I was learning to meditate (yeah, you read that right.  It was truly exhausting teaching my brain to stop fidgeting).  Are you ready to truly look at yourself and figure out what values you hold in highest regard?

Tomorrow, I’m onto Step Three (and possibly Four, depending on how long it takes me to complete Step Three) of defining who you are from The Complete Guide to Building Your Personal Brand.  I’ll see you then!

Journal

Who Am I?

This is the purpose for a completely separate blog.  As too many people know, I have Attention Deficit Disorder.  I wear that like a badge of honor.  I love to learn.  Learn what?  Well, just about anything that catches my eye!  I also love to share what I learn.  That is why I have three You Tube Channels (well, 4 if you want to count the one that I have, for all intents and purposes, abandoned), three blogs, two Twitter accounts, two Facebook pages in addition to my main profile and one royally messed up website.  I know not everyone is like me (mentally scattered) so I do my best to compartmentalize the treasures I find online.  One cool little feature I discovered on here (WordPress) is a little widget for Goodreads!  So, pop over here (to this blog) if you are ever bored and want to take a gander at what I’ve been reading.  The list resembles a Jackson Pollock painting!  🙂

So, last month’s Winter Solstice.  That is really what this post (and blog) are about.  For the first time, it felt like that was the dawning of a new year/new phase in my life.  I can’t explain why.  As the night wore on, it felt as if the clouds were parting.  I cannot think of a better way to describe it but that is when I went a-searching online for some way to figure out who I really am and what I want to be when I grow up.

Explaining my search paths online is worse than trying to tell someone my train of thought when I blurt out a totally random observation. So, simply put, somehow I stumbled onto a tutorial on Lynda.com (I think it was somehow through Dave Conrey of Fresh Rag but don’t quote me). It is Personal Branding Basics with Lorrie Thomas Ross.  It is geared toward the career-minded professional but it got me thinking:  Who am I?  What is my role in this life?  How do I want to be portrayed to the world? Most importantly, how do I want to be remembered?

Do I really only want people to remember me for posting smart-assed memes and videos on Facebook?  Not really.  I have always wanted those who have known me to somehow feel enriched by the experience (well, except for those individuals who, if they magically dropped off the face of the earth I would not mourn) but feel like I have failed miserably.  This is why I strayed away from survivalist topics (for the most part) a few years ago.  It’s such doom and gloom.  You can only point out how corrupt the government is so often without it becoming oppressive (not to mention depressing and a bit fatalistic).

So, here I am having, what seems like a bit of a mid-life crisis (no, mid-life discovery).  This is where the entire journey begins and will be chronicled.  Are you ready for it?  🙂